In an age of instant gratification, it’s so tempting to want to know INSTANTLY what “will be.” As soon as someone asks for our phone number, we wonder if this “will be” the “ONE.” We accept a job offer and wonder, “Will this be good for me?” This intolerance for mystery can drive us to seeking external opinions compulsively, fruitless worry and money spent on those who claim to “know.”
But there ARE times when we are genuinely STUCK and don’t know what to do next. THIS type of uncertainty is a key component when we’re growing and evolving. I love this reminder in The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho:
“The secret is here in the present. If you pay attention to the present, you can improve upon it. And, if you improve on the present, what comes later will also be better.”
This one quote captures 3 key ingredients to my life recipe for UNCERTAINTY, as it pertains to making decisions.
- Focus on WHAT IS now. One clear way of clarifying what to do next is to pay attention to what you are doing NOW. What am I sensing/feeling? When did it start? Where am I now? What can I do, now?
- Remember, Life is Uncertainty, and Choice is a Risk. We are so pre-plan oriented, we forget that Life is UNCERTAIN. No amount of books or blueprints can guarantee any specific outcome, and that’s the deliciousness of Life. When I find myself gazing into darkness, I see much better when I stop straining my eyes.
- Ask, and be QUIET. This is not the time to rally the troops and take polls on who thinks what about your life. Ask Life to make clear your very next step, and then wait on the answer. It will come, and you’ll know it by how it feels.
May the journey be joyful!