I once dated a man who temporarily lost his thoughts: standing over me, pointing his finger in my face and saying a bunch of words I could no longer hear.
I asked him to take a seat and stop pointing: THREE TIMES.
I stood up, gathered my things and walked outside.
I got in my car.
He stood BEHIND my car declaring he “wasn’t finished talking yet.”
I turned on the car, and counted to THREE.
Thank God he had quick reflexes.
Isn’t it ironic how men can stab people 1000 times, be serial killers and cannibals, start unnecessary wars, kill women for deciding to keep children they helped co-create, and YET, remain unburdened with the label of “crazy”? There’s always a “reason” for a man’s ill behavior, even if it’s as simple as “boys will be boys.” Hmm.
Men have the phrase, “Work hard, play hard.” For women it should be, “It’s a thin line between love and hate.”
Kehlani says it perfectly in her song, “CRZY”:
“Everything I do, I do it with a passion. If I gotta be a b*tch, I’ma be a bad one!”
And such is life.
Look at the Earth. We trash Her. We take from Her … and still she sustains us, mercifully … miraculously almost. But every once in a while, she’ll flip the switch just to remind us.
Women are the same way.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard a man say, “Women are crazy!”
I admit: YES – every now and then, we behave in ways (unprovoked by males) that leave your heads spinning. With the orchestra of hormones, full moons and societal f*ckery amiss, we have plenty reason.
But let’s re-define just what’s (usually) meant when men call a woman “crazy”…
1.) Behaving in such a way that the other party has no choice BUT to realize the truth of the Law of Cause and Effect.
2.) Possessing all the qualities of “a wake-up call.”
Does Newton’s Third Law ring a bell? For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction?
Fellas: it’s physics.
It’s literally a NATURAL LAW.
Lucky for y’all, I’ve listed the TOP THREE THINGS MEN CAN START DOING in order to avoid the sh*tstorm of CRAZY from the women in your lives. And this includes ALL the women in your lives.
1. Never Tell Her What or How She Feels. EVER.
I don’t care if she’s your friend, sister, wife, co-worker, daughter or mama! I don’t care if you KNOW you’re right. When she is sharing how…and what…she feels, just smile, affirm and nod. TRUST ME.
2. Show Up or Peace Out.
There is nothing that cultivates a lack of trust and respect in a man more than a man who’s in and out. Not only is this a perfect recipe for creating and triggering deep-seated abandonment issues and insecurity, but it’s also a classic f*ckboi tendency.
3. Underpromise and Overperform.
Don’t talk what you won’t walk, and start out how you can hold out. And this isn’t about delivering popcorn performances or sneak previews of what it could be if… You know, where you show up once in a blue moon, do something dazzling and then fall off the face of the Earth? Yeah. Dead that.
As a wise man once told me:
A woman is like a thermostat; she will always reflect the temperature you set.
If you can commit to these 3 practices, life can be so much sweeter. Go get ’em tiger!